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Succeeding at coparenting

On Behalf of | Oct 16, 2023 | Family Law |

In 2020, the U.S. Census Bureau reported that 25.5% of children in the country live in homes with only one parent. For these children, successful coparenting arrangements can be vital.

Coparenting is an approach that seeks to prioritize the well-being of the children while managing the complexities of separated or divorced parents. However, it is essential to understand what coparenting is and what it is not to make it work effectively.

What makes coparenting work

Coparenting should focus on the children. It must recognize that children need both parents in their lives and strive to create an environment that supports their growth, development and emotional well-being. It requires a cooperative and collaborative effort between both parents, which means open communication and the ability to work together for the benefit of the children.

The arrangement should aim to provide consistency for the children. This includes consistent routines, rules and expectations in both households to minimize confusion and stress. Respect is a core component of coparenting. It involves respecting each other’s role as parents and making an effort to speak and behave respectfully, both in front of the children and privately.

Successful coparenting also requires flexibility. Life is unpredictable, and parents may need to adjust schedules or arrangements as necessary to meet their children’s needs. It also must acknowledge that conflicts may arise but emphasize healthy conflict resolution techniques, such as seeking mediation or counseling when necessary to find common ground.

Both parents should offer emotional support to the children during this transition. Coparenting fosters an environment where children feel safe and loved in both households.

What can complicate coparenting

Coparenting should never be a competition between parents. It is not about trying to outdo each other or winning the children’s favor. It should never involve sabotaging the other parent’s relationship with the children. Nor should it be about creating obstacles or undermining the other parent’s authority.

The arrangement also cannot be one parent making all the decisions and imposing them on the other parent without discussion. Parents should make major decisions together.

There should also not be any rehashing past issues or spying on the other parent to gather information about their personal life. Respect for each other’s privacy is important.

While flexibility is essential, coparenting does not mean that one parent can undermine the rules or boundaries set by the other. Consistency in expectations is key.

In a successful coparenting relationship, both parents commit to providing a stable, nurturing and loving environment for their children. It can be challenging, but it offers children the opportunity to maintain meaningful relationships with both parents and navigate the emotional challenges of divorce with support and love from both sides.